Times must be hard when a rapper, that’s only known as the guy who dated the 3rd most famous member of Destiny’s Child (Letoya Luckett), has to come out and voice his opinion against black women and offer dating/relationship advice. I know nothing about this thug called Slim, which is quite inappropriate unless he’s been on a Slim Fast diet. In any event, after researching Slim Thug, which took all of 3 minutes, I do have to come out in his defense.
Like most rappers, Slim Thug was boring in the early 80′s, 1980 to be precise. It’s best to assume the house or apartment Slim Thug was raised in was built anywhere from the 50′s to the 60′s, possibly even earlier than that. A commonality that Read more [...]
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In Defense of Slim Thug
- June 8, 2010
- men, music, randomness, women
- 32 Comments
No Child Left Behind: Color Consciousness in Adopting
- April 28, 2010
- family, men, parenting, relationships, women
- 16 Comments
In 6th grade I had a very close friend named Parminder, I think we both got along because we were quiet and kept to ourselves. The one thing that always intrigued me about Parminder, was the contrast between her skin tone and hair. She had the blackest hair I had ever seen, and her skin was the color of copper. It was rare occurrence for Parminder and I to see each other outside of school, but one day she invited me over to her house. When I walked into her house, I expected to see parents that looked just like her, but I saw two very blond hair and blue eyed people and that’s when it dawned on me that Parminder was adopted. Being the nosey kid I was, when I asked her about it, she told me she Read more [...]
Socks And The City
- April 27, 2010
- beauty & health, men
- 30 Comments
I’ve lived in the MD/DC area for the past, hmmm…8 or so years now. I understand that certain styles are specific to certain regions of the country. I also understand, that certain styles are started because some people just don’t know any better and other people choose to copy.
When I first moved here, as I was driving down the street one day, I noticed a guy walking and it looked as if he had on 2 pairs of socks on each foot. The socks were almost up to his knees and he had these on with shorts! I figured, wow, I hadn’t seen ‘scrunchy’ socks in years! When I was a pre-teen we used to wear them, and they were only worn by GIRLS. That was back in the early ’90s and here was this guy in ’03 Read more [...]
Mainstream Media, Please Stop Giving A Damn About My Singlehood
- April 19, 2010
- me, men, relationships, women
- 36 Comments
During a conversation this evening with HWSRN, I caught myself in the middle of our conversation stating, “I’d like to be in a relationship”, and his response was, “Well you get what you put out there”. I let that comment slide, because I didn’t feel like debating the “Why I’m single”, with someone who I’ve had such a back & forth history with because it would only end up in me hanging up on him. Sure, I’ve had my fair share of relationships that ended either amicably, or because an ex was a bat shit crazy sociopath because we just didn’t ‘mesh’, so I’ve pretty much have seen both ends of the spectrum when it comes to relationships.
But…..
I’m really tired of having the “Why Black Read more [...]
Single Women With Children, Stop Bringing Men Home To Meet Your Children
- April 15, 2010
- men, parenting, relationships, women
- 7 Comments
There are a few ground rules that I follow when it comes to dating and being a single parent.
I don’t bring dates home
I don’t let a date pick me up from my house.
If said date has children, I’m not interested in meeting them or even talking about them
If it goes from dating to a full blown relationship, I don’t introduce the man to my son, until MONTHS (occasionally a year) later.
I’ve always been a private person when it comes to my personal life, even if someone happens to be a part of said personal life. It can be difficult when it comes to dating, partially because I am raising a child on my own. I always make sure to point out my rules to any potential man that I date, Read more [...]
Single Parent Women: Raising Boys To Become Men
A few months ago, my 10 1/2 year old son, ran into my bedroom to make an announcement that made me choke on my water, literally. I sat there with my mouth wide open and really didn’t know what to say. I asked the first thing that came to my mind, “Well, where did you put it? I hope you didn’t touch the doorknob.” Needless to say, he informed me he hadn’t and already washed his hands.
That moment will never be forgotten by either of us, I’m sure. That night, I actually laid in my bed, and cried, because that was one of the moments where I wished I wasn’t a single parent, raising my son alone. It was at that moment, even though I always thought I’d be able to ‘raise’ Read more [...]
If He Liked It & Put A Ring On It, The Least He Can Do Is Wear His In Public
- March 31, 2010
- men, relationships, women
- 33 Comments
“With this ring, I thee wed”, said the groom.
I’m confused.
If you’re going to spend thousands of dollars on an engagement ring/wedding bands, a wedding, reception and honeymoon, but then turn around and NOT wear your wedding ring in public, then what’s the point?
I always thought a wedding ring signified that you have found a loving partner, a friend with whom you can share the rest of your life and therefore you wear and display it proudly. I know most women, take great pride in flashing their carats around, and making sure everyone takes notice, especially if it’s a huge rock. I remember wearing my own engagement ring before I sold that shit and made sure everyone took notice for that Read more [...]
The Modern Day Matchmaker LIVE In DC – Show & VIP After Party
- March 22, 2010
- entertainment, me, men, relationships, women
- 3 Comments
Do You Know Where Find The “Good” Men & Women In DC?
Well….We Do!
Join the real life “Hitch” PAUL CARRICK BRUNSON (http://onedegreefrom.me), author NIKKI NOKES (http://www.nikkinokes.com), spoken word artists, and a panel of experts for a night of entertainment and real talk about sex, love and relationships!
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Doors Open at 6:15pm for Mixer
Show Starts at 7:00pm
VIP After Party Begins at 10:30pm
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Spoken Word By BASSEY IKPI (http://www.myspace.com/basseyworld) & JONATHAN TUCKER Read more [...]
Would You Really Trust A Man To Take Birth Control Pills?
- January 28, 2010
- men, relationships, women
- 19 Comments
This morning on the news, I heard a snippet of a story saying that scientists are one step closer to creating a birth control pill for men, after finding a new human sex hormone that could be used to suppress male fertility. At first, I thought sure, that would be an excellent idea. Let men take responsibility from preventing their progeny from popping up all over the world. Why not have another alternative, besides a condom, for men to use, because we all know men use condoms ALL the time (rightttttttttttttttttttttttt).
Right there in that last sarcastic statement is where my feelings changed about the “male pill”.
Do I really want to trust a man to be reliable enough to take a pill on a daily Read more [...]
Bitch Is Not The New Black & Steve Harvey Needs To Stick To Comedy
- January 3, 2010
- Culture & Society, men, randomness, relationships, women
- 33 Comments
I swear to god & all of his disciples, if I hear someone else mention to me the news piece that was done last week in regards to the high percentage of black women not being married, I’m going to scream. I’m so tired of hearing about the plight of the black woman when it comes to dating and marriage. I’m also tired of seeing a comedian turned relationship expert, who has a noted history of cheating on his wives providing his ‘expert’ analysis of the ‘epidemic’. If you let Steve Harvey tell it, the standards that black women have are too high, hence why they’re single. Well, let me be the first to say, “Fuck You Steve Harvey”. Let me also add, if someone else mentions the book, “Bitch Read more [...]
If You're Having Black Girl Problems I Feel Bad For You Son I Got 99 Problems But a Black Man Ain't One
- December 9, 2009
- men, relationships
- 26 Comments
“I stopped dating yall black women because_________________”, says random angry black men across the country.
Feel free to fill in the blank with whatever bullshit excuse you’ve heard. I’m sure, if you’re a black woman reading this post, you’ve heard a couple of them.
I could give a damn about a who person chooses to be in a relationship with, whether you’re Black, Hispanic, Asian or White. Hell, I’ve dated men all across ethnicity lines. BUT, what you’ll never hear me say is some bullshit like, “I stopped dating yall black men because____________________”.
I’m not going to negate my own race, to make up excuses as to why I’m dating another race. If I’m going to date a white man, it’s going Read more [...]
Relax, B*tch! He's Not My Type!
- December 7, 2009
- men, relationships, women
- 42 Comments
I always find it funny when a woman wants to grab up her man in a public place when she notices he’s staring or admiring another woman, and this was the case on Sunday while I was shopping at the mall. When I shop, I have tunnel vision. I don’t pay attention to anything going on around me. My goal is to find what I want and leave the mall as quickly as possible. If something was ever to happen in a store, like a robbery, I wouldn’t do the police any good by giving a description of the perpetrator, because that’s how little I pay attention to what’s going on around me.
As I was searching for some long pants at Banana Republic, I was on the phone talking and texting, I was in my own little world. Read more [...]
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