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• December 10, 2012

  Get Yourself A Gaggle Of Men To Date

  

  

  If we lived in a perfect world, being single and trying to find that one person to be with wouldn’t be so complicated.  It’s said that there’s somebody for everyone, but the search to find that one comes with twists and turns, bumps and detours.  In Jessica Massa’s new book, The Gaggle: How the Guys You Know Will Help You Find the Love You Want. “The gaggle is a select group of guys … who play different roles, fulfill different needs,” Massa writes. Basically, she’s saying to stop looking for the “one” and get  a gaggle of men that can fulfill different roles.

  I’m not sure what number a gaggle actually consists of but having options never hurt anybody.  If you’re single and dating,  could the “more the merrier” theory work?  If I could put together the perfect “gaggle”, it would consist of:

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• January 12, 2012

  Mariah, Jennifer, Janet & Charles: Celebrity Weight Loss Overkill

  

  

  One of the first celebrities I can recall endorsing a weight loss system was Sarah Ferguson aka “Fergie The Duchess of York”. Before her endorsement of Weight Watchers and after her divorce from Prince Andrew, the 2nd son of Queen Elizabeth II, she was commonly referred to as “The Duchess of PORK”. During her “reign” as spokesperson for Weight Watchers, she also “wrote” several books that were backed by Weight Watchers. Who says you need monarchy backed dollars when you’re pulling in Weight Watchers money?

  Most recently the airwaves, tv & internet have been inundated with diet commercials. From Jennifer Hudson’s god awful annoying commercials with her singing to her former fat self, to Janet Jackson’s whispery Nutri-System commercials, Mariah Carey’s “Post Dem Babies” Jenny Craig ads and finally Mr. Mumbles himself, Charles Barkley attempting to garner Weight Watchers some male clientele.

  Every time I see one of these commercials I feel like Susan Powter & want to scream:

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  3 Comments / men, Recent, women / Yesha Callahan

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• November 14, 2011

  Who Will Cry For The Little Boy

  

  

  Last week as I scrolled through the Sandusky grand jury report, I couldn’t help but to think of a friend of mine. He was one of the first people I met when I moved to Maryland about 8 years ago. We immediately hit it off and became really close friends. A few months into our friendship he told me about the abuse he suffered at the hands of a male family friend, from the time he was 6 until he was 11. He didn’t tell anyone about this abuse until he was a college student and at the insistence of his therapist.

  In college he developed an addiction to drugs and sex. Both of which abused his body. He didn’t know what a healthy relationship consisted of. The men he involved himself with were always old enough to be his father and knew they were taking advantage of his insecurities and aided in his drug abuse.

  After divulging information about his abuse to his parents, instead of being supportive, they ostracized him and went into denial. Where he thought he would receive hugs of encouragement, he instead received arms extended from his parents that forged a distance between them.

  Years later, although he had long given up drugs, he still hadn’t come to terms with other demons in his life. By the time I met him, I saw the self destructive behavior and experienced it first hand. I remember urging him to get back into therapy and get rid of some of the bad influences in his life.

  In 2006, my friend died from a lethal combination of heroin and prescription drugs. At his funeral I saw his mother walk up to the casket to hug him. The hug he received in death was what he yearned for in life.

  So many times, sexual abuse either goes unreported or it’s not even acknowledged when it is reported. Although the percentage of sexual assault among boys is drastically less than that amongst girls, it is still prevalent.

  Whatever the outcome of this Penn State mess, it is shedding a light on the fact that sexual abuse doesn’t discriminate and that there shouldn’t be a stigma of shame when it comes to coming forward.

  I cried for my friend as I was reading the grand jury report. I cried for my own son in hopes that he will never come across predators in his life and I cried for the boys that are now grown men that carried this Penn State experience around with them for so many years.

   

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• August 10, 2011

  AIDS Is An Epidemic-Being A Single Black Woman Is Not

  

  

  Earlier this month I turned 35.

  Apparently this is a monumental age, so said HWSRN.

  I guess I should have been more concerned with my impending single hood and the lack of men that actually want to marry black women, instead of getting chocolate wasted. Oh well, everyone has their own set of priorities. When I turned 35, Mojitos were mine.

  Honestly, I could give a damn about marriage and anything that comes with it. I’m content with being single at the moment. Maybe that’ll change down the road, but right now, I’m happy.  What I don’t understand is why so many other people care if black women are getting married and offering advice on how to end their life of single hood. Apparently the recent round of advice included finding men that aren’t black in helping the black dating crisis.

  Once you go White, you’ve been licked right you go right?

  Once you go Hispanic, you’ll be able to manage? Maricon.

  Once you go Asian, they’ll all be hatin’? Yaky or Virgin hair?

  Once you go Indian, you’ll be ….? Red dot not feather

  You get my point.

  Seriously, why haven’t people pointed out that maybe some women are fine with being single?

  AIDS Is An Epidemic-Being A Single Black Woman Is Not!

  Instead of pointing out the number of uneducated black men that are in prison, etc. Why not point out the number of black men that are educated and employed that don’t want to get married either?  Hell, if you take a look around DC, you’ll see some of the most “eligible” black men out there, but guess what? They’re pretty much content with keeping their options open and running through every “eligible” black woman in the DMV area. I’m pretty sure that’s how it is in any metropolitan area that has a high percentage of professional black men & women.

  But women, you’re not getting off so fast either.

  Sure, ok. You want to get married. Guess what? Non-black men have been around for quite some time. Want to know something else? They’ll treat you like shit also, if you come across a shitty one. Like Michael Jackson said, “It doesn’t matter if you’re black or white”…wait..or was that Madonna? Anyways, the grass is not always greener on the whiter side.  Don’t let your single hood turn you into one of those Dennis Rodman The  NFL The NBA Tiger Woods That Fed Ex Guy The Attorney black men that loves to negate black women to the core and have no problem in voicing their opinion on why they refuse to date us.   I’m pretty sure you know the type.

  Forget about those people offering advice as to why you’re single, and why you can’t find a man.  Being a single black woman is not an epidemic. In my world, it’s a choice.

  7 Comments / blogging, men, Recent, women / Yesha Callahan

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• June 8, 2011

  Men Caught With Their Pants Down and Shirts Off

  

  

  Let’s face it, people cheat. People are reckless and careless and feel they are invincible. For the record, the people I’m referring to right now, happen to be men. Sure, women cheat as well, but that’s a different post for a different time.

  Personally, I’ve never cheated, but I’ve been put in some compromising situations by a few men that were cheating on their significant other or attempting to. In certain instances compromising would be considered an understatement.  In my opinion, when a person willingly puts another person in any type of compromising situation, especially when done intentionally, the last thing they should be is shocked when shit hits the fan.

  What cheaters and those who attempt to cheat fail to realize, while they’re in the midst of doing their dirt, are the consequences. Most operate with this false sense of ‘above the law’ mentality which leads them to believe that they’re never going to get caught. What they fail to realize is that  when they finally get caught, they’re getting caught BIG.

  This is when wives and girlfriends are on the receiving end of that infamous phone call or email from the other woman. Or when lewd texts and photos are being plastered on tv screens and they’ve become the butt of jokes for the late night talk shows of the world.

  In a perfect world, people would learn from others people mistakes. Apparently Weiner didn’t watch any of the news back in February. But allowed himself to be Chris Lee’d.

  Welp.

  Where one person immediately admitted what they did and made a speedy exit (more than likely because of the possibility of transvestites coming forward), Weiner’s big mistake was lying from the jump then getting on television and imitating Jimmy Swaggert and crying.  Let’s not forget the whole conversation of ‘is it actually cheating?’ and the whole non-sex scandal.

  People fail to realize that one lie leads to another and the truth exploding in your face.

  I’m pretty sure there will be other instances where someone’s cheating and ‘preludes to cheating’ has career and family ending potential, because we live in a world where people can’t seem to learn from other people’s mistakes. Also, we live in a world where politicians need to stay away from the internet. How many more will end up getting Chris Lee’d or Weinered if they can’t learn the do’s and don’ts of the internet.

  6 Comments / dumbass of the week, men / Yesha Callahan

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• January 25, 2011

  Marjorie Harvey Stands By Her Man, Steve Harvey

  

  

  

  Last year, I wrote about Steve Harvey’s philandering ways and how he cheated on his ex with with his current wife. I always wondered how long it would take for his ex wife, Mary Shackelford, to come forward with her “truth” about her marriage to Mr. Potato Head Man Steve Harvey. Mary stayed silent for a while. Longer than I even expected.  In her silence, Steve Harvey, “wrote” two books with his female “ghost writer”.  Needless to say, either Mary got sick and tired of his new claim to fame as a so-called relationship expert, or she’s a woman on a mission to set the record straight about the man so many women have spent their hard earned money on.

  Via a series of Youtube videos, Mary Shackelford, described her marriage to Steve Harvey, which was nothing to brag about, especially when she received a letter, presumably from Steve’s current wife, Marjorie, about his philandering ways.  In her YouTube videos, Mary accused Marjorie of being the woman Steve left her for.  Yesterday, Steve Harvey took it to the airwaves to put his ex-wife on blast:

  “The part that’s hurtful in this is my wife and children had to be drugged [sic] into this,” a frustrated Harvey said on-air. “If you’re going to be vindictive go ahead and aim it at me, but my son is coming in the room crying and that’s also her son, so why would you do this?”

  As of earlier this afternoon, Marjorie Harvey has secured legal representation in a defamation of character suit against Mary Shackelford.  Marjorie has called the YouTube videos “malicious & baseless” and plans on getting justice through the court system. Also, did I mention Steve Harvey is also suing his ex-wife because he feels she was the cause of him not getting a show on Oprah’s network. Oprah isn’t dumb.

  Can you say A M B U L A N C E  C H A S E R?

  So I get the whole, “I’m standing by my man” blah blah blah. But, Marjorie, if your man is a known cheater, how close can you stand next to him before you’re struck by lightening as well?  Why would Mary lie about you being the woman he cheated with?  Doesn’t she still own the letter you sent her?

  I’m not a Steve Harvey fan. I’m also not a fan of stupid bitches people and their lawsuits (go figure).  Defamation involves lies, not truths and with truths that come to light, sometimes they hurt.  I’m sure Marjorie will continue to stand by her man, any way possible. I also hope, while she’s busy standing by him, that she realizes, the way she got her man, could end up being the way she looses him. You can’t teach an old cheater new tricks. History has a funny way of repeating itself.

  For shits & giggles:

  

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