AIDS Is An Epidemic-Being A Single Black Woman Is Not
Earlier this month I turned 35.
Apparently this is a monumental age, so said HWSRN.
I guess I should have been more concerned with my impending single hood and the lack of men that actually want to marry black women, instead of getting chocolate wasted. Oh well, everyone has their own set of priorities. When I turned 35, Mojitos were mine.
Honestly, I could give a damn about marriage and anything that comes with it. I’m content with being single at the moment. Maybe that’ll change down the road, but right now, I’m happy. What I don’t understand is why so many other people care if black women are getting married and offering advice on how to end their life of single hood. Apparently the recent round of advice included finding men that aren’t black in helping the black dating crisis.
Once you go White, you’ve been licked right you go right?
Once you go Hispanic, you’ll be able to manage? Maricon.
Once you go Asian, they’ll all be hatin’? Yaky or Virgin hair?
Once you go Indian, you’ll be ….? Red dot not feather
You get my point.
Seriously, why haven’t people pointed out that maybe some women are fine with being single?
AIDS Is An Epidemic-Being A Single Black Woman Is Not!
Instead of pointing out the number of uneducated black men that are in prison, etc. Why not point out the number of black men that are educated and employed that don’t want to get married either? Hell, if you take a look around DC, you’ll see some of the most “eligible” black men out there, but guess what? They’re pretty much content with keeping their options open and running through every “eligible” black woman in the DMV area. I’m pretty sure that’s how it is in any metropolitan area that has a high percentage of professional black men & women.
But women, you’re not getting off so fast either.
Sure, ok. You want to get married. Guess what? Non-black men have been around for quite some time. Want to know something else? They’ll treat you like shit also, if you come across a shitty one. Like Michael Jackson said, “It doesn’t matter if you’re black or white”…wait..or was that Madonna? Anyways, the grass is not always greener on the whiter side. Don’t let your single hood turn you into one of those Dennis Rodman The NFL The NBA Tiger Woods That Fed Ex Guy The Attorney black men that loves to negate black women to the core and have no problem in voicing their opinion on why they refuse to date us. I’m pretty sure you know the type.
Forget about those people offering advice as to why you’re single, and why you can’t find a man. Being a single black woman is not an epidemic. In my world, it’s a choice.
Great post! It reminded me of a post by Melissa Harris-Lacewell where she argues that this whole “unmarried black women” epidemic is just another way for America to vilify and belittle the black women. She compares it to the 90′s welfare/crack mother stereotype. Good for you, was also wondering if you saw that crack pot “study” that claims there 3 “good” black men for every 100 black women thing.
I just recently blogged about it, it’s sort of infuriating.
Hey,
After reading your blog you had me callin` myself a %#&@$!!! I`m a Strong Black Man doin` what I gotta do for me & mine. I can also appreciate the part about chillin doin` my thang to the fullest. Now I`m the proud father of 2, Jahvier & Jahzara. Hit me back … Peace & Blessings.
Nothing but the truth. I’m tired of hearing all the blanket statements and insinuations that we’re “less than” if we’re single.
Yep, yep! Say that! Today I had a thought that white woman should write a book about Black woman who can’t find a man to marry them. I bet it would sell like hotcakes! Now who would star in the movie….
GREAT Advice (take if from an old married black woman) in the words of Jill Scott …keep “living your life like it’s GOLDEN!” DoYou.com
Bev…you old? Not hardly! It’s like men are free to be single and not have a care in the world..but god forbid women are, specifically black women, there’s a crisis!
A- FUCKING- MEN!!!