3-Year-Old Brooklyn Boy Was Beaten to Death Over Spelling Assignment

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An aunt of a 3-year-old boy is now behind bars after fatally beating him for not being able to spell. Christen Dale, 21, admitted to beating Ethan Ali because he was flunking spelling lessons she was giving him. Dale also admitted to whooping her nephew with a belt for a week, before he died.

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The day before Ethan was found dead, Dale punished him after he refused to do his spelling lessons. Dale made him him stand in the corner holding a bottle with outstretched arms for 45 minutes until he fell forward and smashed his lip.

The next day, the boy refused to do more work, and she once again gave him a beating with a belt. An autopsy showed he “suffered extensive bruising on his torso, back, buttocks, thighs, arms, and scalp,” according to court records.

Dale, who was ordered held without bail after getting arraigned for manslaughter and assault charges, was looking after the boy for the past few months.

 

 

47 Responses

  1. Shakespeare'sMuse

    March 10, 2015 9:05 am

    So sad for this poor baby. What this person did has nothing to do with whipping a child as a form of discipline, her actions were purely abusive & meant to cause hurt & harm. Each parent has the right to raise their children as they choose & I do not agree that there should be no spankings ever. There are situations where it is entirely appropriate to spank (my term) or whip a child. It’s not appropriate to whip a 3yo-a child of any age-over a spelling test or refusal to cooperate. This woman is an animal, not a loving or caring parent & it is the fault of the parents that they allowed this fool to have free reign over their child. They are as guilty as she. I have been a homemaker for 15 years because my husband & I trust no one to take care of our children.

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  2. Yes, I'm That Leah

    March 7, 2015 9:41 am

    Beast. Save your tears in court. Cry all you want in your cell. Hurry up, and get caged, like the animal you are.

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  3. Chris Noactually Karazin

    March 5, 2015 11:49 am

    I’m a mother of four. Three-year-old babies are pretty much incapable of spelling. They can barely recognize the alphabet. There’s a reason kindergarten starts at five. This woman is not only a moron with absolutely no understanding of child development, she’s evil and sadistic.

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  4. mbeezy

    March 4, 2015 6:55 pm

    We know there are better ways to discipline. I wonder how this woman was disciplined as a child – we usually give what we get. This poor baby didn’t have a chance. Hopefully someone in this family will stop the cycle.

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  5. Mary Burrell

    March 4, 2015 6:26 pm

    she needs to be whooped with a belt and she needs to be made to stand with her arms out with a bottle. All the horrific things she did to that baby need to be done to her repeatedly.

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  6. ALM247

    March 4, 2015 5:52 pm

    My Lord, what is wrong with her? He’s three. Why did she put so much pressure on a three year old? Someone probably beat her for everything in her life, and she made the wrong choice and decided to continue the cycle.

    This is awful. What if he was later found to have a developmental issue that prevented him from learning at what was considered the normal pace? Sadly, we will never find out.

    You can’t leave your children with everyone. I agree with noirluv45 when she inferred that the parents or other relatives should have seen the bruises. There is a lot of frustration out here, and people often never learn the way to properly deal with frustration. Now this woman is on her way to prison because she lost her mind over spelling. My Lord, when the wardens tell the other inmates what she is in there for, she is going to wish she had treated the little boy kindly.

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  7. noirluv45

    March 4, 2015 3:18 pm

    I remember when that video appeared where that “father” beat the living crap out of his two daughters for apparently twerking and putting it up on Facebook (and then I heard the girls snuck out the house). Whatever the case, he beat them with a cable cord and put it online. I remember the comments that said that father was doing the right thing, and he was a poster child for being a good father. I thought, “How sick is that!” These are the mindsets we have in our society, and it’s scary. I feel for our children.

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  8. Me

    March 4, 2015 2:54 pm

    this is exactly what i think of when i tell my friends why i won’t ever beat/spank/whoop a child. folks like to fall back on that “my parents beat me & i turned out ok” but surviving a beating ain’t the same as learning a lesson. nobody ever said “i finally learned why i should take spelling seriously the day i got beat to inches of my life.” obviously he wasn’t the type of child that responds to physical intimidation so when he didn’t play by her rules, her rage got the best of her & took his life. & you can tell her anger just escalated towards the boy every day. first she push him. then she torture him by making him stand in the corner with his arms out (anybody that does exercise knows that even if you don’t have anything in your hands, holding your hands out to your side for a long time takes more strength than you think it might), & then she beat the living daylight outta him. instead of finding a new way to get through to him she just kept looking for new ways to terrorize him, which is the same thing a whole lotta parents do b/c they think if the child didn’t learn the lesson the first time they beat the kid, then the kid must not have felt enough pain for it to register so they beat the kid worse each time.

    everybody thinks they can control their anger & rage when they decide to spank a child, but nobody realizes that folks don’t wake up thinking “today is gonna be the day i take this kid’s life.” no. it’s the folks that think they can beat respect & discipline & responsibility into a kid that turn around and get so angry over something the kid did til they lose control & end up traumatizing or killing the child. it could happen to anybody. the minute you decide to lay your hands on a child is the minute you set yourself up to become one of these folks who take a child life over something trifling. i hope GOD have mercy on this poor boy’s soul b/c clearly his family didn’t.

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    • noirluv45

      March 4, 2015 3:00 pm

      Well said! My sentiments exactly, Me. You know what the definition of insanity is. Evidently, this girl was unequipped to properly care for a child. She was ignorant and didn’t know any better because she was probably hit.

      I wish people would think about whom they allow in their children’s lives even if it’s a family member.

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      • Me

        March 4, 2015 3:06 pm

        “even if it’s a family member.”

        yes indeed! i don’t have kids, but i definitely take note of the friends & family that look at me cross-eyed when i tell them i don’t plan to beat my future kids. b/c i’m not about to leave my kids in their care knowing they believe in beating children. i’m all for having a community around you when you raise a child, but not the ones that resort to violence.

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        • noirluv45

          March 4, 2015 3:10 pm

          You are very wise, Me. That violent mindset is dangerous, and most aren’t willing to even fathom changing it.

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        • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

          March 4, 2015 3:11 pm

          Yes, many of our people have to eliminate that slavery mentality of beating and mistreating black people.

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          • noirluv45

            March 4, 2015 3:14 pm

            But how can you get them to see the errors of their ways? Most are so set in that mindset, that logic doesn’t penetrate.

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            • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

              March 4, 2015 3:17 pm

              It’s a difficult process no doubt. One advice is to act locally, but think globally. In other words, we can work in our communities, but try to get resources to help our communities locally, regionally, and globally during the long term. Some people will wake up and unfortunately some will not. We want all people to be saved, but some will not be saved.

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            • Me

              March 4, 2015 3:27 pm

              that’s a good question. i used to think the same way until i got to hs & one of my teachers overheard a bunch of us talking about disciplining our future kids. he politely asked if he could jump in the convo & started questioning our reasons for being so sure that we were going to beat kids we didn’t even have yet. at first i was all puffed up with that “i’m a good student & good kid even though my folks beat me so it must be working” but by the end of the talk i realized that the only real reason i had for passing on beatings is that somebody else did it to me & not b/c i thought it actually solved any problems. i was willing to listen to the other side, but a lot of folks aren’t willing to hear it. when i visit some relatives who i know beat their kids i always try to step in as that alternate parent whenever i see them getting to that breaking point & i do everything from making the kid take a nap, to just straight up taking the kid out for a walk so everybody gets a chance to cool down because nowadays it really breaks my heart to watch a kid suffer through a beating. sometimes i feel like they see that there’s another way to solve the problem, but then when i leave i always feel like they’ll go right back to beatings when i’m not around. i wish there was an easy way to show everybody that if they do something other than beat their kids they can still raise great kids & it won’t make them any less of a tough parent. i think folks are scared that if they don’t beat their kids when they have the chance to, it’ll be too late to start beating them when they’re really messing up & sometimes folks just don’t know anything other than beating so they feel like if you tell someone not to spank a child it’s the same as telling them to let the child run wild. but there’s a lot between spanking and doing nothing. anyway, i said all that to say i wish i knew the answer to your question.

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              • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

                March 4, 2015 3:58 pm

                Those are great points that you have made. In essence, beating a child can never cause true reformation in the world. We have to promote human respect. Some people falsely view that not beating children is equivalent to causing anarchy in the household. That is certainly not true as strong discipline can be achieved without brutally violent tactics executed by grown adults. This story deals with a 3 year old black child. I want to belabor this point, because this child is 3. No child should be beaten, but a 3 year old definitely should never be beaten in no circumstances whatsoever. In real life, I have heard countless stories from black people and white people that decades ago, they were beaten with telephone cords, phone books, belts, trees, and the whole nine yards. They seemed proud of this like being beaten is a badge of honor for them. I felt shock and dismay about a society that glamorizes the mistreatment of children. Things must change. Enough is enough. Humanity must end such barbarism and injustices.

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                • noirluv45

                  March 4, 2015 4:09 pm

                  truth, I think that many people don’t believe children have a right to be respected. Many parents say, “This is my child (i.e. my property) and I can do as I wish, even if it means beating the daylights out of them.

                  Yes, this child was 3 years old! I’ve heard those stories too. In fact, I’ve heard my cousin, who is now in her late 60’s, recount how her mother would beat them with anything within reach (broomsticks, switches, belts, extension cords, etc.) My dad confirmed it. My friend also recounts stories like that. They’d get beat for little offensive like dropping a glass of milk or accidentally dropping makeup on the carpet.

                  Who is going to stand up for babies like this 3 year old. As long as many of us think this is OK, then we have a long battle to fight.

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                  • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

                    March 4, 2015 4:17 pm

                    We certainly have a king way to go. It breaks your heart witness stories such as these, but we have to. We have have empathy for or brothers and our children. Caring for children is part of true black African culture. There’s no excuse for beating a child to death. The stories that you have shown at similar to the stories that I have heard from fellow co-workers too. We have to break the chains. The chains didn’t end in 1865. The chains of mental slavery still exist and we want liberation for our black people.

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                  • Michelle

                    March 4, 2015 4:44 pm

                    I think this also ties into the reason why a person is so willing to shoot and kill another person, because they “disrespected” them.
                    And the act of disrespect could be something minor like having a benevolent shoulder bump as they walk past.

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              • noirluv45

                March 4, 2015 4:04 pm

                I appreciate your reply. Very well said, Me! The thing is you were willing to listen, even though you might have been puffed up at first. You heard the teach out. I tend to be opinionated, and had to learn to just stop and listen to other’s points of view because I’m always willing to learn, and I’m not always right.

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        • vintage3000

          March 4, 2015 3:59 pm

          Me, my mother was like you. When I started grade school, she brought me into the principal’s office and told this man (right in front of me) “this is my kid. If she does something wrong, you have my phone number, NOBODY here is allowed to touch her”. Afterwards she told me many folks (even Black adults) like to communally use Black kids as punching bags, and she wasn’t allowing that with her child.

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      • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

        March 4, 2015 3:06 pm

        Exactly.

        This story is a total tragedy. After reading this story, many folks will find it difficult to hold back tears. This boy could of been another great leader for our community, but he was killed by an evil person. The murderer should be punished without question. The lives of our youth matter. Only the cowardly and the weak will beat on child, especially in that fashion. That child is stronger than his murderer. If what the slave masters did to our ancestors were wrong (which it was. These evil slave masters whipped our ancestors, beat our ancestors, raped our ancestors, and did things that I can’t repeat here), then we should never do these abhorrent actions (which slave masters had done) to our own people. We have to respect our people. Harming precious black children is a serious crime against Nature, against our ancestors, and against the Creator.

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        • noirluv45

          March 4, 2015 3:09 pm

          Yes! The problem is, truth, that so many of us don’t get it. It’s like a generational curse. Like “Me” said in her comment, people use the excuse “my parents beat me & i turned out ok.” They don’t realize it’s a curse, not a blessing. You don’t kill a child’s spirit, and that’s exactly what so many parents inadvertently do.

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    • Michelle

      March 4, 2015 3:16 pm

      The reason why I don’t condone spankings is the fact that a parent tends to discipline their child(ren) while still in the midst of feeling frustrated.
      A sense of frustration can cloud an adult’s level of judgment.

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      • Me

        March 4, 2015 3:30 pm

        so true. even when we deal with other adults, we know that sometimes we do or say things in a fit of anger that we never would do with a cool head. so it should make sense that you never want to let yourself harm a child while you’re heated.

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    • Anthony

      March 5, 2015 8:04 am

      I am not anti-corporal punishment, but what you say is so true. People hit children out of anger and frustration, and not only does that not make anything better, it is abuse. To many frustrated people take their anger out on their children.

      The woman who killed this child is a special kind of idiot. It takes a fool to kill a 3 year old for not doing well at spelling! There is a reason why public school starts at five for kindergarten.

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    • Yes, I'm That Leah

      March 7, 2015 9:37 am

      Exactly. What a dumb thing for people to say. They got beat, and so what?

      And so, If you got beat to within an inch of your life as a child/teen… your parents hated you. That’s what.

      The acceptance of abuse as if it’s something normal makes me sick. Long ago, my friends actually told me that I should beat my kid….. don’t people realize that you have to hate a child, and being a parent, to beat a child?

      You have to have a mental deficiency if you can’t control your rage, and use patience to find a better solution to other than letting a child get to you. I’m mad, so, I have the right to act like some wild beast in the wilderness. You beat your kids… whoa… you should be so proud of showing your community you beat your kids like they are slaves.

      I mean, beating a child like an adult? How is that fair? The child can’t defend himself like an adult. It’s a real sucker move. If you can’t slap a child on the hand, or on the bottom with your hand, and get them to mind… you have to figure out another way. Like taking privileges away.

      My father beat me, and I don’t speak to him or my mother to this day. I learned to fear them, and hate them. I got beat for every little thing, just like this boy. No mistakes were allowed in my home, and my father was a huge guy, with a military background.

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    • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

      March 4, 2015 3:00 pm

      Preach.

      There are tons of alternatives to disciplining children (which never includes beating them). A child can read a book, be restricted of privileges, and write a letter to the parents about why what the he or she did was wrong.

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      • noirluv45

        March 4, 2015 3:06 pm

        In fact, truth, sometimes taking away a privilege works a lot better with some kids. There are kids who are spanked, but it doesn’t do any good.

        BTW, why was she forcing this spelling on a 3 year old child?

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        • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

          March 4, 2015 3:10 pm

          That’s the million dollar question. I think that the story says that the child had to do a spelling assignment. If the child had trouble spelling words, then he could experience a tutor or an after school program. Patience, love, and compassion can go a long way in developing any child. I know some people hate the views of Dr. Spock. LOL. I’m not saying we should agree with Dr. Spock on every issue. Yet, we can have the balance between compassion and discipline. Discipline has nothing to do with beaten a 3 year old child to death. Most kids aren’t even in Kindergarten at 3. Most are in day care, Pre-K, or child care.

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          • noirluv45

            March 4, 2015 3:13 pm

            Who in the world gives a 3 year old a spelling assignment. Truth, I can understand a parent/guardian sitting down with a game or such to teach their child spelling, writing, or even some math, but it should be fun. It should not have been an assignment.

            Discipline without love doesn’t work, and now this child, who, like you stated, could’ve change the world is gone over some nonsense. She should never get out of prison.

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            • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

              March 4, 2015 3:19 pm

              I feel you Sister. Usually, spelling assignment won’t begin until Kindergarten not at 3 years. Usually 3 years old study pictures, images, and syllables not words per se (unless the child is a genius). Also, spelling assigned for Kindergarten usually happens in the classroom or via assignment during lessons. Yes, games do come about as a way for kids to learn like the Smart board computing system. Smart board is the new generation blackboard so to speak. It has interaction, etc. in a digital fashion. True love is true discipline. That is why when someone disciplines a child in a positive way, then that shows real Love.

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              • noirluv45

                March 4, 2015 3:21 pm

                Right! Kindergarten seems logical. To me, learning at that age should be fun, not a burden. It’s clear she was a nutcase. Whomever left that baby in her care will have to live with the consequences of their action as well.

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                • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

                  March 4, 2015 3:28 pm

                  The people who left the baby with will experience a great deal of guilt.

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  9. noirluv45

    March 4, 2015 1:43 pm

    Where were the parents, grandmother, or other family members of this baby while he was being beaten and tortured? No one noticed the bruises? How come this beast had this baby for months?

    Unbelievable!

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    • vintage3000

      March 4, 2015 2:00 pm

      Exactly. Now it wants to cry after murdering a baby. If i was one of the cops transporting this demon it would accidentally trip over my shoe.

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    • Michelle

      March 4, 2015 2:25 pm

      According to another news report, the parents are separated. Prior to the murder, the father made an attempt to obtain primary custody of the boy. The mom lived in the same residence and she works as a home health aide.

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      • noirluv45

        March 4, 2015 2:55 pm

        Thank you for that information, Michelle. Apparently, the father knew there was a lot of incapable people taking care of his son. It’s a dang shame this boy was murdered by this beast who was caring for him and who was supposed to love him. There are too many nuts having custody of children.

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